We all know someone who is a little too wrapped up in herself. She loves taking selfies and adding them to Instagram. He can talk about himself for hours without listening to what you have to say.
While these are annoying traits, they do not necessarily indicate that you are dating a narcissist. Most likely, said person has an exuberant ego. You won’t like them, but they won’t hurt you. We talk about a true narcissist when someone is diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder.
How do you recognize a narcissist?
A narcissist shows no empathy for other people. He or she has an incredibly high opinion of themselves. He or she also feels a deep need for excessive attention and admiration. They are unable to establish and maintain valuable relationships at work, in the family, or in a relationship. At the same time, narcissists should not be confused with egoists!
Narcissism drives self-confidence, a willingness to take risks, such as applying for a promotion or going on a date with an attractive stranger. It makes it difficult to manage your emotions, maintain stable self-esteem and a sense of identity
Lack of empathy
If your partner lacks empathy, you are most likely dealing with a narcissist. He or she cannot identify or recognize other people’s emotions and feelings. He thinks everything revolves around him. He claims that he is entitled to everything. In one move, he crosses the personal boundaries of others by manipulating, humiliating and bending them to his needs.
The narcissist doesn’t care how other people feel and doesn’t try to understand them. In addition, she rarely considers the feelings of her partner, family members, or friends. He can hurt them mercilessly with his words or actions. Narcissist often says cruel things in a brazen way, not paying attention to whether he will cause someone pain. Many times he starts a one-sided discussion about what he is doing and how he feels without asking his interlocutor about the same. Can be impatient and even irritated when someone starts talking about their problems.
Willingness to manipulate
Manipulation is another weapon in the narcissist’s arsenal. He can turn a situation around to fit his narrative. When someone manipulates you so deftly, you can imperceptibly fall into their trap and remain relatively unaware of what is happening. Narcissists are masters at getting what they want, and because they lack empathy, they don’t care about the feelings of others. They use deception and manipulation to get their most important needs met.
A narcissist’s behavior changes after you become involved in a relationship with him. He becomes less attentive to your needs. He doesn’t keep to the plans he came up with in the early stages of the relationship. When he doesn’t get his way, he gets angry and stops talking to you. Think about how your partner reacts to stress and disappointment. Think about how he or she treats you. See if he or she is willing to listen to your plans and dreams. Is he or she empathetic toward friends, coworkers, and family members?
Narcissists are selfish and put their needs first. The longer you know him, the more conditions he can place on you. He will most likely try to isolate you from your friends. He will tell you when you are allowed to go out and even what you can wear. If you feel that your partner controls you at every turn and tries to isolate you from things and people that are important to you, there is a high risk that you are dealing with a narcissist. If you mention unfair treatment, he will most likely make his arguments and try to manipulate you.
Personal charm and incredible charisma
Narcissists are incredibly charming, charismatic and seductive. They can flirt and have a way with words. They behave like a chameleon in order to arouse interest. For them, seduction is a game. They love to win, so they will do anything to be shown admiration. Once they have won, they will usually lose interest.
Narcissists often use a psychological trick called projection. It is a form of defense or an unconscious pattern that occurs when they feel threatened. The tactic mentioned above is frustrating because your partner accuses you of things you don’t actually do. The accusations include not only cheating and infidelity, but also your own weaknesses. He may claim that you are doing or thinking the same things he is.
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